Sheila,

Someimes I think we women are such multitaskers, we do and think of a million things at a time, while its been said men only process one thought. I too think my hubby can sometimes ground me and keep my mind focussing on one thing, which can make me feel less "hairied" for a lack of a better term! That can sometimes be the greatest peace...like weight being lifted off your shoulders to think through one thought at a time...just my thoughts!

 

Depends on what I'm looking for. Am I looking for his faults or am I looking for the greatness that is already there cause my man is "made in His image".

Sounds simplistic and the holy looking answer but ultimately fueling his good stuff ultimately fuels mine.

 

Nothing calms me down like being in his arms... and there is peace in catching up and filling each other in on what's going on... family times together... brainstorming to work through whatever it may be or just bouncing ideas off him... He definitely brings me peace rather then being an obstacle to peace...

 

My husband and i are in a wonderful place in our marriage now. It hasn't always been this way, but he is my rock, and i feel very peaceful when i am with him. Outside of my faith in God, he is the only person i depend on

 

Unfortunately, my husband is so overwhelmed with the demands of his job that I pretty much handle everything on my own (parenting, household, homeschooling, etc.). I pray for his priorities and for spiritual growth. Yes, it would be nice to have the friendship and support from him also; but I'm learning to depend on the Lord for all my peace and encouragement.

Thanks for posting this though... Oh, and I love your site! ~Karen

 

Depends...and there's no predictability or logic. If I'm having a flashback or panic attack, he's right there holding me and comforting me...until later when he's implying that I'm "faking" some triggers. If I'm stressed or frustrated about work, he'll listen, but only as a prelude to telling me what to do and how to fix it, and suggesting I get to the office earlier instead of getting enough rest or taking the time to spend with him. So I quit talking about work. He'll talk to me about priorities and goals and things he wants for our lives, and I've made the mistake too many times of figuring out small steps I can take to help them realize them. Sometimes he's happy and appreciative of the help, but most often I've got it wrong and am told so in no uncertain terms. There is no logic and I've pretty much stopped looking for any. I just wish I could figure out what he wants. I'm already the breadwinner (his decision; I hate it), I do 85% of the housework, and he claims the marriage is more important than the jobs but he's either working late or being a lump in front of a screen. What does he WANT? I don't know, but I do know I'm not good enough. Peace comes when I keep my mouth shut.