I voted without asking him, but he's at work right now. I am guessing. Maybe I'll ask him later but that might be kinda weird!

 

I believe a "one night stand" would hurt him the most. Both of us believe "intimacy" is sacred, and sharing that connection with another man would be a tough one to get over. My husband had a hard enough time dealing with a male OB delivering our baby!

Sharing dreams, hopes and feelings with another man...well I imagine that would hurt my husband as well if I wasn't also sharing those things with him. But I'm not sure how different that is from sharing emotions with a female best friend.

Interesting poll. I'll have to think about it some more.

 

I think my husband would be much more devastated by a sexual affair. I, like Catherine, voted without asking him but I'm pretty sure I got the answer right.

 

I think (I did not ask him) that having a one night stand would hurt him more.

Like Megan said intimacy is sacred. Sex is something that is very sacred between a husband and a wife.

Plus, my husband finds great joy and pride in pleasing me (Sexually), so knowing that I went to someone else instead of him would be devasting. It would make him feel inadequate as my husband.

This was very interesting though.

-Ashley

 

Like some of the other ladies, I didn't ask my husband, but I know that one night stand is the correct answer. He would be hurt if I poured my heart out to another man, but far less so than if I had sex with another man. For one thing, I talk to other people daily - bits and pieces of my hopes, dreams, and feelings are shared throughout (though not to the degree I share with my husband). So if I said more than I should to another man, it would be more about me getting carried away in my talking and less about my husband or the other man. Sex, on the other hand, is certainly about the other person. You choose to go through with the act, there's plenty of time to stop things (unlike talking where it's easier to speak without thinking). He would be devastated by the deliberate act of betrayal that an affair is. And, as the other ladies have said, sexual intimacy is sacred!