I don't have time to post a bunch this morning because I'm off to our homeschooling track meet, but someone sent me this link and I just have to share it.
I've been wondering lately about current fashions and whether they really are modest and proper. I've been having a hard time with the low rise pants, because I think they show way too much (plus, on most people they're not that attractive).
And I always believed that T-shirts shouldn't be form fitting. Oh, and showing your bra straps? A definite no no. Not quite as bad as showing one's underwear, including a camisole, but definitely bad. One should never give even a hint of lace.
But in the last year I've tossed almost all of those missives out the window because that's just what fashion is. I've started wearing much more form fitting clothing, and I put camisoles under V-neck shirts, and I wear some low-rise pants (though I try to get them as high as possible). And my daughters do, too.
For the current fashions, we're still pretty modest. But if five years ago you had shown me a picture of what I was wearing, or what I allowed my daughters to wear, I would have been appalled. Almost all fashions go in the face of what we've been taught about modesty.
Please understand--we never show cleavage or belly buttons, and we wear long shirts. It's really just the form fitting aspect that bothers me!
Anyway, here's a link to a modesty survey that was done recently. They asked men and teenage boys what they thought was modest, and it's interesting. Take a gander. I'd love to keep talking about this tomorrow. So if there's anything you see there that's really outrageous, or really insightful, leave it in the comments! Just go here for the survey.
Oh, and I'm working on that reading list I promised!
Sorry that posting has been light, but I'm on vacation this week!
And as I've been here, we've learned something very important. My oldest daughter fits my clothes.
And we've been clothes shopping a lot, which has opened up a whole other realm of problems.
Becca hasn't bought very much, because she's on a clothing allowance. She has budgeted herself a certain amount to spend while we're here, and she wants to look around and make sure what she's getting is attractive; affordable; and unique. No sense bringing something home that she could buy there just as easily!
But down here in Hawaii everything is about boobs. You know what I mean: the deep V's, the boobs outlined, etc. etc. I know that's the fashion right now, but I'm not comfortable with it.
I don't mind deep V's if they're paired with a modest camisole, which is how she always wears them. Absolutely no cleavage is my motto. But I'm also uncomfortable with shirts, dresses and bathing suits that don't just plunge in the middle; they also plunge at the sides. If you have a wide band of fabric over the shoulder, and the dress goes nicely under the arms, you can still wear a bra and camisole. But if the dress comes down at the sides, too, so that you're seeing the side of the you-know-whats, I don't think that's right.
Becca listens to me and agrees with me on the whole, but even some of the things that are pretty and modest by comparison I'm still not sure I'm comfortable with. When we were teens fashions weren't close fitting, but now everything is. All curves are revealed.
She looks great, but I just don't know. So tell me, all of you who have gone through this or have opinions, how do you decide what to buy for your children? What do you think is modest?
I often ask my husband, since he knows what teenage boys think, and if he says it's okay, I go with him. But I'd still like some better guidelines. Anyone want to offer some?
About Me: I'm a Christian author of a bunch of books, and a frequent speaker to women's groups and marriage conferences. Best of all, I love homeschooling my daughters, Rebecca and Katie. And I love to knit. Preferably simultaneously.
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