It's Wednesday, the day when we talk marriage! I introduce a topic, and then you follow up either by commenting or by writing your own post and then linking up in the comments!

We've been talking all month about how to "simplify your life". Many of us feel like we are just too busy--we're running around like chickens with our heads cut off, with too much to do, too many pressures, and not enough resources to get us through.

We've talked about various ways to put first things first, to reprioritize, to organize.

But today I want to let you know the ONE thing you can do to avoid hassles, give yourself energy, avoid heartbreak, and revitalize your life. And it's really very simple. Invest in your marriage.

Your marriage is the best weapon you have in your arsenal to get through life. It is marriage that makes us feel like we can take on the world. It is our spouse that gives us a partner in life so we're not trying to handle all this alone. It is marriage that helps your children's behavior, and helps them to turn out okay, thus saving you a ton of heartache, worry, and time, too.

Perhaps some of you have marriages that you don't think contribute very much to your happiness. I know so many women who think that life would be easier and less of a hassle if they were to divorce. That may be true, but it is true for a tiny minority of people, and this is why:

When you split up, you magnify all your problems, you don't necessarily solve them. It is not like you can actually "get rid" of your spouse, anyway. You have to share custody. And if you already don't get along, imagine trying to negotiate who gets Christmas, who gets this weekend, whether we can switch weekends because Katie has a soccer practice and you want to be there. Of course, most of you aren't about to split up, but let's look at worse case scenario first:

And children do not fare well in a divorce, even if that divorce is justified. They grow up too fast. They're more likely to get involved in risky behaviors. They often shut themselves off from you, even if your children are your whole life. In the couples that I have seen split, even if they had the best of intentions of building new lives with the kids, the kids don't share those intentions. They pull away. And with shared custody, as horrible as it sounds, parents get used to having a life without the kids. Suddenly your life doesn't revolve around the kids anymore, and they don't want their lives to revolve around yours, because their whole life has been turned upside down. So they look outside of the family for support, and few parents, even if they were the wronged party, enjoy a closer relationship with the kids after the divorce. Usually, after a split, you fall further away from the kids. It's not true in every instance, but it's true in a lot. And even if your'e closer to one child, chances are you won't be to all of them.

Money becomes a worry in a whole new way, because now you have to support this family. Child support isn't going to be enough, and courts demand that you work, too. It will be tough.

So my best advice to simplify your life: don't ever let your marriage get to that point.

What about those of you who certainly aren't ready to split up, but you don't feel that your marriage is a source of energy and strength for you? Then invest in it. Forget everything else I have said this month and do this one thing, and your life will change. Find a way to love your husband like crazy.

I've spent the last two days in Toronto, at speaker training for World Vision's Girls Night Out shows. I've been speaking for them for years, but they're expanding into the United States, and I'll likely be doing some shows down there this spring. But while I was at that training, I was away from my family. And I was driving home last night, I heard the country song "Love Like Crazy". And I thought: that's what I want to do to my husband. I want to love him like crazy. I want to invest so much in him that he has no doubt that he is the only man in my life because I want him to be the only man in life. I still would choose him. I enjoy being with him. I'm proud of him.

And I'm going to treat him that way. He has been so good to me lately, but I've been wrapped up in a lot of things--I've got a big book proposal in front of some huge publishers right now and I've been stressing about it. And I said to God last night in the car, "God, I really don't care about the book nearly the way I care about my marriage. Give me my marriage over the book. I'd love the book, but let Keith always be my main priority."

Sometimes we get so wrapped up in what we're doing that we forget to love like crazy--to talk to our spouse, to make time for him, to put effort into "getting in the mood", and romancing our man. We think about our own priorities, and we forget his.

But what happens when we romance him? What happens when we love him like crazy? I don't know about you, but in my house, it means that he loves me right back. The days after we've been really close he does the dishes more. He asks me what I need. He's closer to me. It's a two-way street. When I'm close to him, he feels close to me, and we both get immense satisfaction from helping each other. We're thinking about the other person.

And I can talk to him. I can tell him my stresses and concerns. I can ask him to help me make even minor decisions about the girls or schedules or church. He's engaged.

It doesn't automatically happen. It only does when we invest. When we listen, and kiss, and send love notes, and put our marriage before our kids. When we pray for him, and enter into his world instead of always insisting he enter into ours.

Life is so much easier when you walk through it with another. It is so much harder when that partnership falls apart. So invest in your marriage and make it super strong. It's your best resource for this life!

Now, what advice do you have for us today? Have you ever had to change your atttitude towards your spouse? Or do you have something else to tell us? Write your own Wifey Wednesday post that links back to here, and then leave the link of THAT POST in the comments.. Thanks!