(I've put this post at the top again so you won't miss it!)
Hi ladies!
I so appreciate your comments and thoughts on the Wifey Wednesday post below! Keep them coming! I'll try to write a summary post tomorrow with all the great ideas you've given.
But I have a really cool announcement! Today (Thursday) at 3 pm. EST I'm doing a FREE webinar on To Love, Honor and Vacuum!
It's my signature talk that I often give to women's groups. If you've never been able to hear me in person, here's your chance to watch me over the web!
Christmas is when we moms feel so frazzled! We're running around making life perfect for everyone else, but who takes care of us? If you're feeling taken for granted, join us on this webinar as we learn how to make our relationships in our families characterized by respect and generosity, not by disprespect and laziness. Learn why the best gift you can give your future daughter-in-law is a son who cleans toilets! And learn the tools to make that gift a reality!
You don't need any special software. It's all there for you. Simply go here, and scroll down until you see my webinar listed. Then click the link, and you're in!
If you can't listen live, you can always watch later. But it's great to be there live because you can ask questions and chat, too.
I'm talking about Honey, I Don't Have a Headache Tonight as part of my special party day, and I hope you'll come!
It's going to be fun, and I'm not going to pull any punches! Come on over, and listen to me talk about sex in marriage. You listen over the internet, so it's super easy!
And you can even text me anonymous questions to answer!
I have a great announcement! The most fun teleseminar ever is coming, Wednesday, February 4, at 3 EST!
It's going to be called Honey, I Don't Have a Headache Tonight: Help for women who want to feel more in the mood! And we're not going to pull any punches!
Here's what one listener said after the last time I gave this teleseminar:
You were funny and down to earth! Thank you so much for I could relate to some of those instances you mentioned concerning sex (oops) The Lord is amazing and definitely has a great sense of humor! Growing up in a very fundamental Baptist Home I would have probably been slapped for mentioning that sex word! I have come a long way knowing our Savior and His Word!
But wait! Maybe you're not sure what a teleseminar is! Here's the lowdown:
I talk into a microphone hooked up to my computer. You sign in to the website that is live streaming what I say, and then you can hear me. Live. And you can send me questions over the chat box, that I can then reply to. It's a lot more fun than just reading my words! And the questions are often hilarious (or at least things that you wouldn't normally ask your pastor). Hey, where else are you going to ask them?
I'm also hosting a Twitter party (hashtag #HIDHAHT) at 9:00 EST, and a Facebook party at 8:00 EST.
Okay, my lovely readers. You are all a very funny group.
Yesterday I posted two posts. One was on Hope Chests for your teens. The other was on s-e-x. Hope chests has 12 comments. S-e-x has none, and only one person participated in Mr. Linky.
So which post do you think had more readership?
If you said Hope Chests, you'd be wrong! Yesterday was this blog's busiest day, as links came in from all over for the "intimacy" post. You girls are reading it! You're just not saying anything about it.
I understand. When I was first on television talking about Honey, I Don't Have a Headache Tonight, I had to practice talking about sex in front of a mirror so I didn't look awkward. And my husband and I speak at marriage conferences, I had to practice saying even more explicit things than are on television. But you know what? People appreciate it. Nothing I'm saying is bad. It's all information we want. Which is why I get so sad that the church doesn't talk about it more. It seems that most of the sex info we get is from secular books or the media. And that's not right.
Part of the problem, I think, is that the media distorts sex so badly that it loses the beauty. Our culture has turned sex into something that is purely physical, where the relationship doesn't matter anymore. It's a search for that next big physical high, which I think is why people are trying weirder and weirder the things. The regular seems so tame when sex is only about the body.
But when there's an emotional and a spiritual aspect as well--which is how it is supposed to be--sex becomes beautiful.
I have a great talk that I give on sex that hardly anybody will hire me to do. In a way I understand. When I speak to women's groups, people don't want to exclude those who are single or widowed, etc. But I also think that women desperately need to talk about this. That's why I'm doing Wifey Wednesdays, and why most of those posts have to do with sex. We need good information, and we need a place to ask questions.
But at the same time, I think the church has largely ceded this ground to secular "sex experts". By not talking about sex very much, we've given the impression that we have nothing worthwhile to say. That sex really is better out there in the secular world than it is in our boring homes with one woman and one man for life. That we really have very little fun, and are quite prudish.
Actually, when you look at studies, the opposite is the case. Christians have better sex than non-Christians do. No matter what you may think of all those people gracing the covers of magazines in the grocery store, chances are you and your husband are more skilled than they are. After all, you have a lifetime to practice on just one person. They don't.
I wrote about how much better Christian sex is right here. But I still think we need a place to talk about it, and not just read about it.
Recently I conducted a teleseminar (a web conference) on sex. I talked about the difference between men's and women's sex drives, I talked about what sex was designed for, and I talked about all the things that could go wrong. It was great fun. But this teleseminar had a feature whereby people could type in questions anonymously that only I could see. As soon as I asked for questions, they came flooding in, faster than I could talk about them. It was great fun, and boy did I answer some that even made me blush! But where else are we going to get the information? We have to have some safe place to talk about this in a biblical way.
So given the response to the post yesterday, which was my biggest read one yet, I'd like to start offering some more teleseminars where we can talk, and you can ask questions. Anybody interested? If you are, all you need to do is sign up with your email address. I hope you can join me soon!
About Me: I'm a Christian author of a bunch of books, and a frequent speaker to women's groups and marriage conferences. Best of all, I love homeschooling my daughters, Rebecca and Katie. And I love to knit. Preferably simultaneously.
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